Some mornings just aren’t it. You’ve packed the lunchbox, the bag is ready to go, but your kids are refusing to move. Whether it’s starting a new daycare, moving up a class, or just one of those “I’m not going” days, we’ve all been there.
Here are some tricks to help make drop-offs a little smoother.
1. Start the Night Before
Set your future self-up for success.
Lay out clothes, pack the bag, and talk about what’s happening the next day, especially if something new is coming up.
Kids love to feel included, so say things like: “Tomorrow, you get to play with your friends, want to help me pack your lunch?”
2. Keep Mornings Calm (Even When You’re Not)
Kids feed off our energy. If you’re rushing around saying “we’re late!”, they’ll mirror the chaos.
Try keeping music on (their favourite songs help shift moods fast) and give yourself a few extra minutes to slow things down.
3. Create a Drop-Off Ritual
Consistency = comfort.
A special goodbye routine, like a secret handshake, a kiss on each hand, or a silly “see ya later, alligator!” gives kids something familiar and fun to hold onto.
If they’re anxious, try a “connection item” a small photo, note, or keyring that reminds them of you during the day.
4. Use Visual Schedules
For little ones, pictures make sense when words don’t.
Create a simple morning checklist with doodles (toothbrush, breakfast, shoes, bag) so they can see what comes next.
It gives them independence and saves you 1000 questions.
5. Name the Feeling
When kids say, “I don’t want to go”, they’re often saying “I feel nervous.”
Acknowledge it: “It sounds like you’re feeling worried about going today. That’s okay, new things can feel funny.”
Then remind them of something positive: “Remember how you loved the sandpit yesterday?”
6. Keep Goodbyes Short and Sweet
Dragging it out often makes things harder (for both of you!).
A quick hug, a confident “Have a great day!” and a smile tells your child you trust they’ll be okay.
Even if there are tears, leave calmly. Teachers are pros at comforting after you walk out.
7. Celebrate the Little Wins
Talk about their day later and highlight what went well:
“You were so brave this morning!”
“You went even though you didn’t feel like it, that’s amazing.”
Kids build confidence through praise for effort, not just outcome.
8. Play the Long Game
Transitions take time. It might take a week, a month, or more for your child to feel settled and that’s completely normal.
Keep your tone steady and predictable, and soon drop-offs will be a breeze (most days, anyway).
You’ve Got This
Parenting isn’t about perfect mornings, it’s about showing up, even when someone’s crying in the car (possibly you).
And when in doubt, coffee helps. Always coffee.